It began as a way to whine about life issues, turned into a double whine with a new hubby, and now is a whine about moving across 3 states to begin life anew in Texas.
Monday, January 30, 2006
Whateley wants to share the story of his life and his horrible, fracked up childhood. But he wants to post it as a comment. So, Whateley, here you go, a brand new post so you can "comment" away.
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Well it just occurs to me that none of you really know me... or why you shouldn't make your mamma jokes to me. Although I'm a little hesitent because I'm afraid you guys are going to go "wow that guy should be really fraked up for going through that." Which honestly I was, but I have worked through my horrid childhood.
Also in case you are wondering, the Artiste and I wanna get married very very soon, like in June. Why are we "rushing" things. Well honestly as I said in the last post we have known each other for ever. Plus we are living together, and it is scientifically proven that there is a coorelation between cohabitation and divorce. Ergo if you live together before you get married you have a MUCH higher chance of getting divorced. Now there are a lot of other factors in that, but it's there. Also we are going through the motions of being married anyway, why not just go ahead and do it? Honestly there is a part of me that wants to run to Vegas as soon as I get enough money to afford a wedding there and just get it over with (Which BTW I will have enough money this week), because I honestly feel a little skummy and wormy having not married the Artiste before we moved in together. It's like I'm telling her I want to have all the perks of being married, without any of that legal and personal commitment. Now I know that isn't true, I know the Artiste here doesn't think that is true. But there is that part of me that is upset that I'm not being a man and showing my personal and legal commitment to her. So yes honestly it's a little rushed all things considered. That part of my mind that is telling me stupid kids play house like what we are doing, real men and real women take the real step of marriage. What can I say, I listen to Dr Laura a lot.
some people aren't shirking responsibilities by not getting married. statistics aren't truth either. they show a likelihood, but aren't the standard by which you should worry or measure every action. still, i find it admirable that you want to show your commitment. hmm...so, why don't you make a post on your site?
also, on marriage, some people are committed to each other but can't get married, because it's not recognized, it's not permitted, it's not affordable, it's not...
marriage as a social institution has come to mean a lot of specific things in our society, but if you're able and willing and you've thought through it, those are more important than statistics and thinking that you're not being a real man. not sure if you were being serious with that or not.
it's good that you bugged artiste too for a space on her blog, because i was starting to wonder if the wow universe had swallowed her up! you got her to post! ") we'll hang out some more later. congrats on the engagement...really!
I didn't make my point right I guess. My point is I'm very serious about this relationship. Personally I'm not a fan of cohabitation because I know the statistics and my personal feelings. Part of my horrid life story involves my parents getting divorced, and because of that I am HUGELY focused on how to not let that happen to me, and down the line to my kids. I have thought a lot about marriage, and what I want in a relationship. Now I didn't make this point clearly but I found what I want in the Artiste here. Now she has her own reasons for marrying me I'm sure, but mine is I found exactly what I want in a partner. I don't think I'm making my point well again, but I feel like a lot of people are saying that we are going to fast and what not. And from my point of view I have known the artiste for years and years. We have dated for over a year now. I have been there for a lot of her goodtimes and bad. I don't want to merely cohabitate with her, I want to step up to the plate and say legally that I am 100% committed to us, because my feelings are that strong.
i get that. i get what you are saying about you. just being a stickler and saying that, contrary to popular societal opinion, you don't have to be married to show that you're 100% committed to people. don't mind me. i'm just arguing for argument's sake. guess i developed that bad habit. "p
btw, how did you make your "south park" characters? yours looks like you, artiste's doesn't exactly. do you realize that we've commandeered her blog btw?
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Well it just occurs to me that none of you really know me... or why you shouldn't make your mamma jokes to me. Although I'm a little hesitent because I'm afraid you guys are going to go "wow that guy should be really fraked up for going through that." Which honestly I was, but I have worked through my horrid childhood.
Also in case you are wondering, the Artiste and I wanna get married very very soon, like in June. Why are we "rushing" things. Well honestly as I said in the last post we have known each other for ever. Plus we are living together, and it is scientifically proven that there is a coorelation between cohabitation and divorce. Ergo if you live together before you get married you have a MUCH higher chance of getting divorced. Now there are a lot of other factors in that, but it's there. Also we are going through the motions of being married anyway, why not just go ahead and do it? Honestly there is a part of me that wants to run to Vegas as soon as I get enough money to afford a wedding there and just get it over with (Which BTW I will have enough money this week), because I honestly feel a little skummy and wormy having not married the Artiste before we moved in together. It's like I'm telling her I want to have all the perks of being married, without any of that legal and personal commitment. Now I know that isn't true, I know the Artiste here doesn't think that is true. But there is that part of me that is upset that I'm not being a man and showing my personal and legal commitment to her. So yes honestly it's a little rushed all things considered. That part of my mind that is telling me stupid kids play house like what we are doing, real men and real women take the real step of marriage. What can I say, I listen to Dr Laura a lot.
some people aren't shirking responsibilities by not getting married. statistics aren't truth either. they show a likelihood, but aren't the standard by which you should worry or measure every action. still, i find it admirable that you want to show your commitment. hmm...so, why don't you make a post on your site?
also, on marriage, some people are committed to each other but can't get married, because it's not recognized, it's not permitted, it's not affordable, it's not...
marriage as a social institution has come to mean a lot of specific things in our society, but if you're able and willing and you've thought through it, those are more important than statistics and thinking that you're not being a real man. not sure if you were being serious with that or not.
it's good that you bugged artiste too for a space on her blog, because i was starting to wonder if the wow universe had swallowed her up! you got her to post! ") we'll hang out some more later. congrats on the engagement...really!
I didn't make my point right I guess. My point is I'm very serious about this relationship. Personally I'm not a fan of cohabitation because I know the statistics and my personal feelings. Part of my horrid life story involves my parents getting divorced, and because of that I am HUGELY focused on how to not let that happen to me, and down the line to my kids. I have thought a lot about marriage, and what I want in a relationship. Now I didn't make this point clearly but I found what I want in the Artiste here. Now she has her own reasons for marrying me I'm sure, but mine is I found exactly what I want in a partner. I don't think I'm making my point well again, but I feel like a lot of people are saying that we are going to fast and what not. And from my point of view I have known the artiste for years and years. We have dated for over a year now. I have been there for a lot of her goodtimes and bad. I don't want to merely cohabitate with her, I want to step up to the plate and say legally that I am 100% committed to us, because my feelings are that strong.
i get that. i get what you are saying about you. just being a stickler and saying that, contrary to popular societal opinion, you don't have to be married to show that you're 100% committed to people. don't mind me. i'm just arguing for argument's sake. guess i developed that bad habit. "p
btw, how did you make your "south park" characters? yours looks like you, artiste's doesn't exactly. do you realize that we've commandeered her blog btw?
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